5) Put that red-lipped smile to work
Not only will covering your pout in red lipstick fit with the merry theme, but it will also lend you an old-fashioned charm your mother-in-law won’t be able to help but adore. Hey, it’s only science!
Studies have shown that we associate the color red with warmth, positive energy, and motivation, so red lipstick may even motivate your mother-in-law to radiate that loving warmth she holds deep down. Red lipstick was also probably a fashionable part of the culture in her day, meaning that she’ll feel more able to relate to you and be more inclined to treat you as an old friend.
When we tell you to use that red-lipped smile, we mean it! It doesn’t matter what kind of remark your mother-in-law makes or what kind of mood she brings to the table. Remember, you’re trying to out-spirit her. That means you’ll keep smiling and hope that your lipstick psychology will make her more inclined to act friendly toward you. It’s all about maintaining your merry holiday disposition! You’d be surprised at what some will and determination can accomplish.
4) Ask her if She Could Bring a Dish
This, of course, only works if any holiday soiree is to be hosted at your home. Not only will it be an awesome assistance in preparing for the family feast, but you will also be showing your mother-in-law that despite the distance she may put between the two of you, you still see her as quite the valuable asset to the family.
Call her a week in advance of the party and engage her in small talk regarding your preparations, and other points mothers love to gab about. Segue into your request by mentioning how much you loved her casserole/pie/appetizer at a past family gathering and asking if she'd mind making it again. Be sure to really talk up her dish, as compliments are a powerful way of making people more adept to liking you.
When she arrives at the holiday party, dish in hand, extend your most grateful thanks and make a point of loading it onto everyone's plate come dinner time. She'll feel so appreciated that her heart will melt in admiration for you, no matter how frigid the temperatures may be outside.